I’ve come to learn as I’m trying to start and grow this business that wearing your heart on your sleeve is the best move you can make. People want to see the realities of life in others and not some made up fairy tale. For me, understanding myself as a person is making it make more sense.
I have a stack of books DONA International requires me to read to be certified but I can’t only engulf my focus on this specific craft without taking time to really know myself in the midst of it. I’ve had to ask myself, what can I bring to the table to benefit an expecting mother, what do I have to offer to set myself apart?
I had an interview with a first time mom who shared a huge piece of her life with me that made a difference in why she was looking for extra support through her pregnancy and birth.I’m still tweaking my interview process but on this particular day, I felt led to come empty handed and open-hearted and the one thing that came to my mind to share with her was a part of my story that led me to want to support other women.
I told her how it took Chris and I a while to get pregnant and that during that journey I learned that everyone deserves support. You never know what the people around you are going through, they may just be hiding it well or hiding in it well. I experienced heartache that I never saw coming but in that heartache, I learned to listen and empathize with others. All of it taught me so much and I know it was a part of God’s perfect plan for my life. I would do it all over again for my daughter.
I told her, “I wouldn’t be sitting here today if it wasn’t for that.” I wanted her to know that even if she may not be getting approval from others, that I would be there for her no matter what. I explained to her that if there was any information she needed, I would do my best to find it for her.
A lot of people like to question others motives, not caring what their response is, just to push their opinion on them. That’s not why I’m doing this.
People going through infertility deserve support, pregnant women deserve support, and pregnant women who didn’t suffer through fertility problems still deserve support. I know how frustrating it can be to open up to someone and not feel like they’re listening to you. I want to be that ear for people that may feel like no one is listening or agreeing with them.
This mother I met has humbled me so much and makes me even more excited to be pursuing becoming a doula in that all of the moms I meet will have their own stories.I’m at the start of this new journey but I believe God places people in our lives for a reason and my prayer is to be a light in others lives and move where He leads me.
If you’re expecting and would like someone there with you along the way to agree with you and offer support, email me at email@example.com and we’ll talk!